Category: Dating and Relationships
Hey all,
Herewe go with an other question. Does the way someone kisses you matter? I mean would you change your mind if they weren't a good kisser.
no I would educate them on the art of good kissing
ah, but what is good kissing? because what is good for one might not be good for someone else. I remember in school I had a major thing for a guy for months and months and months. eventually, he asked me out, and he was a truely horrible kisser! I didn't ever tell him though. we didn't actually go out for long so it wasn't really an issue but I remember thinking that it was really disappointing at the time, but I was just so happy he'd asked me out that I would never have mentioned it.
Luckily men I have dated have been good kissers. Obviously some better than others, but none so bad I felt the need to try to change the way they did it.
As long as the person doesn't try to eat your face or drool all over you I think kisses don't matter that much, they do and good kissers are amazing *smiles* but if you really are close to someone I think you'll practice the kissing enough so that you'll find what you both like *smiles*.
cheers
-B
kisses, yeah it matters to me. would any girl want to be with a guy who does not even know what he is doing. and besides guys should know how to kiss someone. well but if you love or like the guy then maybe you ll not care to how he kisses you. emotional attachments.
Tru, so you are saying that you only want to be with guy who have been with other girls before. If you are the guy's first love how is he supposed to know at all what he is doing. Those things don't come naturally, and if you love each other you explore these things together and the guy can learn how to kiss or do anything else for that matter with you and you discover those things together. I think excludinga guy without experience is a bit harsh in a way and my main point is you can't expect a guy to know what he's doing unless he's been with a girl before, we allhave to start somewhere right.
cheers
-B
Hmm, kissing...my favorite topic. :) Well, let's see, If I were with someone, and there kissing wasn't shall we say doing it for me, which I've never run into yet...but if I did, It is workable. There are ways to impliment kissing changes. hehe. No need to break up with someone just cause there kissing is not what you thought. These things can be worked on, and what fun it can be practicing. ;)
i think it depends on the guy and how he views your relationship. there are guys who are just good kissers even at the first time. well there are guys who need some experience to learn how to kiss, there are also guys that are natural. but there are guys that are really bad kissers the whole time. to be honest there was only two guys who kissed me, the first one was really a bad kisser, even though he had some gf's and i was honest with him. he was not mad at all. the second guy who kissed me was the love of my life he is a good kisser and he is nice inside out. well i am just saying it depends on the guy.
what about girls? no one has brought up if girls should be good kissers. for me, kissing is important, and i've only ran into one bad kisser so far. to me, good kissing is when the person doesn't drool, ewwwww. *shutters at the thought*
No, as long as we love each other, it does not matter really.
cant say, nevre been kissed but yeh i think it would
kev
Hi Well the first time I was kissed it was good. I remember I walked my gf back to her doorm and just before she left and went in we kissed about 20 times beofre we finaly went back to our own doorms. She really liked it because she laughed the hole time.
if your sited dont forget to close your eyes whilst kissing coz its rude to watch!!
I love kissing. I have been lucky that I have never been with a person that actually kissed bad, some way better than others, but in general, I have had excellent kissers. However, if I was really attracted to someone and loved them, and they were what I thought was a horrible kisser, I would try to help them become better, and work on telling him how I felt or what I thought was better for me. I would also want him to tell me if I was doing something wrong that he didn't like as well.
um, so what's the definition of a bad kisser?
Kissing, hugging, etc, is natural, and I personally don't understand why everyone wants to say there's a right and a wrong way of doing something. I mean honestly I would *not determine my partner over if I get totally turned off by their kissing. If they kiss the way that's not right for you, it's called communication. :)
Well, I agree that there's no set definition of a bad kisser. I guess some people might enjoy having their faces sucked off and slobbered all over. I, however, have come across two truly horrible kissers. *shudders* Luckily, I was not in a serious relationship with either of the two, because I'm really not sure I'd've been able to put up with their horrible kissing just for the sake of love, or like, or whatever. If I happened to be in a relationship with someone whose kissing style I didn't like, I certainly wouldn't consider it grounds to end the relationship, but I would be honest with them, tell them what I didn't like, and hopefully they'd be willing to work on improving. When I say improving, I mean finding something we both enjoy, not just something I enjoy or something they enjoy.
Lol Chelsea, must say that's a bit of a turnoff! :) hahaha
I think if you love someone, the way they kiss doesn't matter. Love shoudln't be about how good they are at anything, so why should kissing be any different? Plus, if you love them enough, their kisses will be amazing, no matter how bad they are. Unless they, like, slobber all over you, or have awful breath, or something. But as far as technique or style goes, it's all pretty much the same to me, if I like th person, I guess.
Having a partner who's a less than perfect kisser, or even a less than perfect lover for that matter certainly isn't grounds for ending the relationship. Communication, and practice, lots and lots of practice. Grins.
agree with the last poster
You shouldn't base a relationship on something so trivial.
hmm... well for me, i have been kissed a lot in my life, the first person who kissed me was not to good im sorry to say, but the next person was even weorse i hate it when guys do all tung. ywww that's nasty! and never swollow te spit! grows. but i must say that the guy who last kissed me, ok and this is not french just a regular kiss, he was pritty good!
The way someone kisses matters to me. It would really suck if there was an intense moment going on and then suddenly it gets ruined by someone who does not know how to kiss. It’s definitely a plus if a guy is a good kisser. Bad kissers, no comment about that but it just shows that they don’t know what they’re doing. Not a good site to watch, I saw people kissing on the hallway and you can tell if the guy is a good kisser or not.
got my first kiss from my current BF on prom night. went great *smiley* can't complain thus far
Kissing matters to me sometimes. With my ex, the first time we kissed it was closed mouth, but then, it all went open after that, and he would just do tongue. Unfortunately, it rubbed off on me, and I did it with my current bf one time and then, that was the end of that. No more just tongue. Unless it is a really really passionate kiss. Sighs dreamily. I love those.
Kissing is not a trivial thing, or something you can just dismiss as meaningless. It is warm and wonderful, comforting or sexy, but it isn't trivial!
Caitlin said:
>if you love them enough, their kisses will be amazing, no matter how bad they are.
I'm sorry, this isn't meant as a personal attack, but that is complete rubbish!
Since kissing happens early on in a relationship, you're probably not deeply in love when you discover whether the person is a good kisser, or not. I'd not try it again, if it disgusted me, and I have had this experience a couple of times. It would be a real turn-off to me to have to tell someone how to do it correctly, and I'd wonder how much coaching they'd also need in bed. I'd rather not have to teach.
me either. lol
I don't want to teach either. But to answer only the first part of the question, I think the way a guy kisses you does matter, f he does know how to kiss. I've always said that the body can tell you more about how a person feels toward you than actual words. Deeper than that is rough sex and gentle sex, but it's the same with kisses. I would expect guys to be a little less awkward about kissing at this age. i never expect to have to deal with an awkward kisser, but if I have to, I guess I'd work with it.
ah, so once again, i am posting to this topic, but with a diffrent anser LOL.
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my first ever boyfriend, when he first kissed me i thought, "OKay this guy realy is weird." the next one, let's just say that i loved his kisses, untill i found someone who was better lol. Scott just did all tung, and not at the write time. that's eww. but as for bad kissers, "Hey," kissing can be inproved, and may I say, it's mighty fun doing so! lol.
Morgan
My question to those who do not want to teach a person how to kiss is this. Take me for example, I've never been kissed before, so does that mean that I'm screwed?
I can't speak for being kissed by a guy, me being a lezbian and all, but to me, kisses are kisses, as long as we don't have the spit strand when we pull apart then I guess i'd be fine!
mmm kisses.
As per my opinion, kisses are the beginning or an initial thing which express the real feelings. I can really assume how much someone likes me or loves me with their first kiss itself.
And, as far as she doesn't smell, I can give her an impressive kiss to her and will make sure that I'm the best kisser...
But I like French kisses a lots, you know.
Raaj